Advice

5 Things Single Women Never Want to Hear

Doesn't it seem like just about everyone is full of advice for the single girls in their lives?

Doesn't it seem like just about everyone is full of advice for the single girls in their lives? Friends in long-term relationships, co-workers who are married — even grandma has something to say about the situation. No matter how well meaning the advice, we're breaking down the five things you should never say to a single girl. That is, unless you love a good eye roll.

Misguided advice: "Don't be so picky."
Why it's lame: She deserves the best guy out there for her, no matter how long she's been single. Telling her she's being too picky implies she needs to lower her standards. Don't make her feel bad for dismissing a guy who lacks the qualities she's looking for.

Check out more advice don'ts after the break!

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No Date, No Problem! 10 Things to Do Alone

It's National Singles Week, but you don't have to be single to want some alone time.
No Date, No Problem! 10 Things to Do Alone

It's National Singles Week, but you don't have to be single to want some alone time. Although seeing a movie, going to a concert, and eating out are typical date ideas, doing these things solo can be quite liberating. While it may seem scary or maybe a little strange at first, it's time spent alone where you can really discover yourself. With these 10 activities, we give you total permission to ride solo.

Sex

The Best and Worst Love Advice From Britney Spears Songs

Britney's back, bitch. The pop singer just released her new single, "Work Bitch," a club-ready song about working hard to get what you want, be it a "hot body" or a "Maserati."
The Best and Worst Love Advice From Britney Spears Songs

Britney's back, bitch. The pop singer just released her new single, "Work Bitch," a club-ready song about working hard to get what you want, be it a "hot body" or a "Maserati." It's a positive message from Brit, and it's got us thinking about what else we've learned from her songs.

Britney's lyrics have taught us about love and relationships — some good and some bad. I took a look at Brit's hits and distilled the not-so-deep yet still entertaining advice contained within. Here's a look at the best and the worst advice courtesy of Miss Britney Jean Spears (or her songwriters, at least).

Advice

The Dos and Don'ts of a First Date — in GIFs

Every situation may have its exceptions, but when it comes to a first date, there are certain rules everyone should follow.

Every situation may have its exceptions, but when it comes to a first date, there are certain rules everyone should follow. First dates are uncomfortable enough to begin with, so we're sharing advice on fashion, conversation, and date-night etiquette to help you ease the awkwardness. In honor of National Singles Week, take a look at these GIF-able moments to learn the dos and don'ts of a first date!

relationships

Everything Harry Potter Taught Me About Love

Merlin's beard! Harry Potter fans like myself are drunk on butterbeer since the news that J.K.

Merlin's beard! Harry Potter fans like myself are drunk on butterbeer since the news that J.K. Rowling has a spinoff film series in the works based on a textbook mentioned in the series. While I'm still hopeful that the author will write a spinoff book series (on Dumbledore's life, perhaps?), I am still quivering in my wizarding robes about the return to Hogwarts.

One of my favorite things (of many) about the Harry Potter book and film series is that it's not a cheesy romantic story on the outside — hello mystery, adventure, and strong female heroines — but at the heart of it, it is a love story. There are various romantic pairings that slowly develop over the course of the series, and there is, of course, the love of Harry's mother that steers the entire plot. So using GIFs and quotes from the movies and books, I'm sharing some of the best love lessons J.K.'s series has taught us about the magic of love.

It's really, really hard to get over your first love.

"After all this time?"
"Always," said Snape.

If someone's a jerk, they're probably feeling unloved.

"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all, those who live without love."

Don't be too quick to dismiss "the nice guy." He may turn out like this.

Being ignored is the worst form of rejection.

"Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike."

There really is someone for everyone.

Teenage relationships are way too dramatic.

"Oh, to be young and to feel love's keen sting."

Looks aren't all that matters.

"What do I care how 'e looks? I am good-looking enough for both of us, I theenk! All these scars show is zat my husband is brave!"

You may be surprised at who you fall in love with.

"Differences of habit and language are nothing at all if our aims are identical and our hearts are open."

Keep reading for more Harry Potter love lessons!

career

Get the Most Out of Career Advice With These 4 Tips

Even capable, career-driven people need a leg up from time to time.

Even capable, career-driven people need a leg up from time to time. Whether it's job advice from a former manager, a couple of industry tips from a colleague, or a pep talk from a friend, feedback and encouragement are crucial stepping stones to navigating to where you want to be in your career. There are a couple of tricks to asking for guidance, though, to ensure that you obtain the information you need and that you still come across as the polished and poised person that you are.

Provide some concise context.

Being asked for advice in a vacuum can be a frustrating experience for any adviser. Sure, she might know your current company and job title, but you shouldn't assume that she knows much more than that. Take a moment to frame up your situation and the problem you face. Briefly state your goal and the ways in which you have tried to achieve it. Providing a little context will help to steer her toward the subject matter you wish to cover and will guarantee that the conversation won't take more valuable time than it needs to.

Ask specific questions.

Even if you set up a contextual framework for your conundrum, the flow of the advice won't begin until you ask a question. Instead of posing a sweeping query like, "What advice do you have for me?" drill down to questions that get at the particulars of your circumstance such as, "What facets of my career should I work on to make myself more appealing for a promotion?" or, "How did you overcome setbacks to your career advancement?" Crafting questions specific to your situation will get you the guidance you need by providing your adviser direction on where you need help most.

Get two more tips when you keep reading.

Advice

5 Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me Before College

This time of year I can't help but get a little nostalgic, and slightly jealous, about all the incoming freshmen who will land on campus for the first time and embark on some of the best times of their lives.

This time of year I can't help but get a little nostalgic, and slightly jealous, about all the incoming freshmen who will land on campus for the first time and embark on some of the best times of their lives.

I'm sure you'll remember being inundated with a ton of information, thrown at you from left and right from family, friends, and practically any stranger who heard you're heading off to college. And it all culminates into the craziest combination of anxiety and excitement. If you're on the cusp of college, be sure to take in all of it the best you can. You never know what piece of advice your crazy aunt will give you that will make the transition a little smoother.

Or, maybe you're the one dishing out the advice to your scholarly loved ones. Either way, here are five things we wish someone had told us — or rather, wish we had listened to — before we left for college.

Have an open mind
It seemed like everyone told us our whole lives what our university experience would be like. Maybe you had older siblings who couldn't stop filling your mind up with pictures of the next four years. Chances are you visited the campus and had some perspective of what the future had in store. Being excited is great, but not going in with specific expectations is even better. It's different for each individual. Maybe you transitioned super smoothly into dorm life or had to warm up a little to your new surroundings. Looking back, I realize that whatever the experience, it's all good. There's never a right or wrong way to get into the swing of things.

Doing things on your own is awesome
If you'd been wrapped up in a close-knit community of friends and peers, heading off to a large campus could have been overwhelming. Maybe you loved (or hooked up with) the people on your floor immediately, or maybe you didn't have the same interests. Whatever the case, getting out there and getting involved in organizations and activities that interest you is a key to college success. And the earlier you get involved, the better. Checking out an on-campus yoga class or listening to a guest speaker was always a great way to meet upperclassmen. Chances are they have the best insider tips and tricks to offer, specific to your college environment. Talk about helpful!

Keep reading for three more tips.

relationships

Romantic Hacks For Relationship Ruts and Dilemmas

So, you've heard of life hacks that will change the way you live.

So, you've heard of life hacks that will change the way you live. But do you know the relationship hacks that will change the way you love? Thanks to advice from Reddit and Quora users, we've put together eight of the most romantic ways you can be more thoughtful in your relationship. Read on, and get ready to score some major points with your significant other.

When he isn't spontaneous enough.
"Set yourself a recurring calendar alert that goes off every 26 days. When it goes off, buy your girlfriend/wife flowers. It's a weird enough number that it seems totally spontaneous each time you do it, and she'll never catch on."

When you're really hard to buy gifts for.
"My parents will have been married 47 years on the 20th. This is my dad's hack. Whenever they are out and he sees my mother eye something she likes in a store (a dress or jewelry), he makes a mental note, then returns the next day or week and purchases the item. He then stashes it in a crumpled up brown paper bag either in his dresser or his truck. At Christmas, I get asked to wrap gifts for him and he hands me 10 crumpled bags. My mother is always amazed at how well he knows what she likes."

When he never notices your new haircut.
"I know a guy who has a standing $10 tip with his wife's hair dresser. He gets a call each time his wife gets her hair cut with a brief description of what was done. Wife walks in the door, he says, 'Honey, did you get your hair done? It's a bit shorter and looks great!' Winners all around."

When you're PMSing.
"Hide chocolate around the house in random places. When girlfriend is PMSing, crampy, hormonal, and miserable and calls at work to complain about feeling terrible, tell her to look behind the silverware tray, under the couch cushion, behind the plant, etc. Instant comfort, and it shows that you care enough to go to the trouble to prevent problems before they happen."

Keep reading for more thoughtful ideas!

Dating

Danielle Fishel Gets You Out of the Friend Zone

"You get love advice!

"You get love advice! YOU get love advice! LOVE ADVICE FOR EVERYONE!" On this very special episode of Dear Danielle, Danielle Fishel plays talk show host while answering a few of your love and dating questions, including: how do you get out of the dreaded "friend zone"? Don't forget to submit your questions in the comments below to have them answered in a future episode of Dear Danielle!

Advice

The Dos and Don'ts of Meeting Your Boyfriend's Ex

We're happy to present this excerpt from one of our favorite sites, HowAboutWe.

We're happy to present this excerpt from one of our favorite sites, HowAboutWe. How should you handle meeting your boyfriend's ex? Here's a starter course.

There comes a time in every woman's life when you know a run-in with your boyfriend’s ex is going to happen. Weddings, college reunions, high school friends' birthday parties: the woman your man once loved is out there, and you’re gonna have to meet her. But this doesn’t have to be the completely dreadful experience you’re imagining! Here are some simple rules to make this run-in as smooth as humanly possible.

Don't ask your boyfriend the details of their breakup right before meeting her. It’s the same reason you should never watch Food, Inc.: ignorance is bliss.

Do mentally prepare. Come up with a few stock questions and then an exit strategy so the conversation can be short, friendly, and short. A lot of famous athletes utilize a technique called visualization — they visualize themselves scoring a touchdown or slamming a dunk. I don’t watch sports, but you get my point. Visualize a nice, calm conversation where you are radiant, confident, and better than her. Not that it’s about being better than her, but . . . we all know it’s kind of about that.

For more advice, head to HowAboutWe: The Dos and Don'ts of Meeting Your Boyfriend's Ex

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