Would You Suggest a Prenup If You Had Money?

I've said this before - my position on prenups is that I don't have enough money right now to ever be in this position, but if I or my man were worth many millions of dollars, I can see the value. It's all about circumstance. THEREFORE, in the Duff/Comrie case, yes they are both worth TONS of their own, but there's a very delicate aspect of his father's fortune as well, and it's not like asking her to sign a pre-nup puts her at a financial loss - she has millions of her own - it just keeps the legal aspects in check, and could be very smart/realistic, given their financial situation and its complexities.

Now, again, it's all about circumstance, but say my dad was also worth $500 million and I'm about to marry my current boyfriend, maybe I would ask for a pre-nup...not because of MY SALARY that I care about, but to protect a family fortune that has been passed down through generations. and maybe it's even at the request of his family...it does make some sense.

Either way, go Duff!

I think asking for a pre-nup makes the most sense when you DON'T have a lot of money and are planning on foregoing work to raise a family. The law varies by state, but generally, money and property you inherit is NOT marital property (and thus no need for a pre-nup) unless you subsequently convert the money into marital property. If you are actually EARNING the money during the marriage, that obviously is a different story.

If my fiance gave me one to sign, I would certainly forward it to my lawyer and have him look over it - as long as everything looked clear, I would probably go ahead and sign it. I wouldn't want to look like a golddigger, nor would I want to start the marriage off with my in-laws thinking I was whiney and difficult. As long as he's not cheating me out of money, why not sign it just to be on the safe side and keep him happy? I don't look at pre-nups as, "We will probably get divorced," I look at them as "We get that life happens, this will keep the divorce amicable and us both financially stable."

I think it depends on the amount and the kind of the assets. I didn't sign one with my husband and unless things are different, I wouldn't in the future.

If I were to inhere $500 million, or had a lot of money, of course I will ask for a prenup. Its a way to protect your assets. The person you marry is not the same as the person you divorce. People change and so do relationships. And I agree with Studio 56 100 percent.

To me, the principal goes both ways. I wouldn't ask him to sign one either, just as I wouldn't sign one. I guess I'm in the minority today.

Although I am very liberal, I do have some very Christian attitudes about marriage. I think the man is the head of the household, and I think when you are married your finances come together as one.

I think it's a smart thing to do for both men and women. Cover your assets!!!

I feel like this post has come up about a bajillion times here.

I'm going to say what I always say: I feel that if you think you need a prenup, then you haven't done a good enough job ascertaining that the person you're planning on marrying is a basically good person. Even understanding that people fall in and out of love, you should KNOW that the person you're signing up to share your assets with is not the kind of *sshole that would try to take what's rightfully yours, regardless of whether they still love you or not. If you're not positive that you're marrying someone that will treat you well even after they've fallen out of love with you, you should either get to know them better and be SURE, or you should realize that they're not marriage material.

Yup. I don't think signing one or asking for one means I love you less. It's good to be practical and smart these days about finances.

Yes, I think it's smart. And honestly, any celebrity who doesn't get one strikes me as a total head case.

While I have been married and divorced (and had my finances screwed over royally), I am against prenups. Though I very seriously doubt that I shall EVER marry again (because I feel that our culture has taught men to look out for number one and to be self-centered and lazy); IF I ever DID remarry, it would be because I thought I had finally found a man I could trust. You don't make people you trust sign contracts. You just trust them. If they decide to hurt you, money will probably be the last thing on your mind.

I agree with totygoliguez 100%; the person you marry is not the person you divorce; people and circumstances change over time. It is practical and common sense to have a pre-nup if you or your spouse has substantial assets.

Yes. In my opinion, it has nothing to do with whether or not I trust or love them enough. It is because life simply happens and there is no telling what will take place 5, 10 or even 20 years down the road that may cause a divorce; one that is amicable or bitter. There should be a safeguard not only for yourself but your partner to ensure a better path. Without so, something might be done out of anger that will financially harm the other person for no reason other than spite. If kids are in the mix, a prenup can help expedite the divorce since certain legal matters are already agreed upon, lessing some of the dragged out sorrow the children involved may feel. So all around, if there are finances/a fortune to secure, I feel a prenup is fine and not take it as a slight against one's credibility.