What Is a First Fight Box?

by Tara Block 0

No, you don't want to have your first fight with your spouse at the wedding, but you should consider this heartfelt ceremony tradition: the first fight box. You can adjust as needed, but the basic idea is that during the ceremony, you fill a wooden box with a bottle of wine, two wine glasses, and sealed handwritten love letters from you and your betrothed. You both then hammer the box shut with nails and promise to only open it during your "first fight" or a special anniversary like your 10- or 20-year (whichever comes first). Then when you have your first disagreement or hit a rough patch in your marriage, you break open the box, pour each other a glass of wine, and read the notes you wrote each other. A wedding is a time to celebrate the good times, yes, but the vows read "for better or worse" for a reason. This ritual is a sentimental way to remember those lovey-dovey feelings once the honeymoon phase has passed. Have you ever taken part in a "first fight box" ceremony or witnessed one?