A Do or a Don't: Kissing on a First Date

by Tara Block 5/22/14 41 Reactions 1.2K Shares Print

Call me easy, but I think kissing on a first date is important — you can tell if you have any chemistry and get a feel for your partner's level of passion. With that said, I have friends who completely disagree with me; they feel a kiss should be saved for someone you really like, not shared with someone you went on a mediocre date with. So where do you stand? Is kissing on a first date a do or a don't in your eyes?

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a-nn-a 6 years

if you're feeling it...go for it! dont let some stupid rule stop you.

j2e1n9 6 years

I used to do both, if I really liked him then I wouldnt wait to kiss, but if I was on the fence about how I felt then I would hold off. Which basically meant I didnt really like the guy anyways. Heehehe! I think if you dont kiss by the 2nd date at least then you're pretty weird, and I think most guys would agree and prob not ask you out again!

sugarsister 6 years

make your mind up before you go on that date what you will and won't do. rules aren't bad if they keep you from doing something you don't want to. but there's nothing wrong with one of your rules being that you will kiss if it's all going really right

Belle1031 6 years

It depends on the person and if the chemistry is present. I didn't kiss my first boyfriend until our 3rd date and that was only because he took my and planted it on me. Don't get me wrong, I wanted to kiss him from our first date, I was just to scared, lol. :P

erratic-assassin 6 years

of course u have to have chemistry...I'm not gonna make-out with someone I don't want to...ga-ross!!! the question was WOULD U KISS ON 1ST DATE, YES OR NO? they should get rid of that *OTHER* option and MAKE u chose, hehe... *muah*

erratic-assassin 6 years

of course u have to have chemistry...I'm not gonna make-out with someone I don't want to...ga-ross!!!the question was WOULD U KISS ON 1ST DATE, YES OR NO?they should get rid of that *OTHER* option and MAKE u chose, hehe...*muah*

Lovely_1 6 years

Now I want to go kiss my man!!! Awww I lvoe kissing, and I don't think it's a bad thing to try on a first date either.

Lovely_1 6 years

Now I want to go kiss my man!!!Awww I lvoe kissing, and I don't think it's a bad thing to try on a first date either.

divinelight 6 years

The last relationship I was in, we did kiss on the first date and it was horrible! But we were in my car (I didn't want him walking home late at night, so I offered to drive him) and I had my seatbelt on, and my car is a standard so there were arm rests and a stick shift in the way! It was really uncomfortable and not a good kiss at all!! I really wish we'd waited to kiss until the second date.

JessNess 6 years

Depends on the date. If you are really feeling him then why not. If it is a mediocre date then a kiss could make it better or you can wait til another date

Pistil 6 years

I think I ended up waiting a month or so before my boyfriend and I first kissed. Not that I didn't want to before that, but we were both shy, haha. Thank goodness he's a great kisser. So it depends.

Pistil 6 years

I think I ended up waiting a month or so before my boyfriend and I first kissed. Not that I didn't want to before that, but we were both shy, haha. Thank goodness he's a great kisser.So it depends.

pink_magnetism 6 years

If I don't want to kiss them, then the chemistry is obviously not there.

DreaAST 6 years

it just all depends.....

DreaAST 6 years

it just all depends.....

LOVErickii 6 years

ditto i am elle

LOVErickii 6 years

ditto i am elle

bastille_75 6 years

I say definitely yes (it's one of the greatest things about dating - the possibility of an incredible kiss at the end of the night), but there are certain circumstances when you just gotta wait and see - b/c if the guy was insensitive, rude or a jerk to me or others he's definitely not getting a kiss from me!!!!!!!!

i-am-elle 6 years

It really depends on the person & how comfortable you are.

iRose 6 years

I'm with the chemistry crowd too. If I'm feeling him then I would let it happen. I don't believe in self-deprivation. :p

mlen 6 years

yep i'm with the if there is chemistry than go for it crowd! if the attraction is there- a little kiss isn't going to hurt anything! however i wouldn't kiss the guy if i wasn't feeling it.

popgoestheworld 6 years

I'm in the Jude C crowd here. I waited until the 3rd date to kiss my now BF, but only because it was the first time I wanted to kiss him :)

popgoestheworld 6 years

I'm in the Jude C crowd here.I waited until the 3rd date to kiss my now BF, but only because it was the first time I wanted to kiss him :)

Asia84 6 years

i don't kiss on the first date. i don't knock anyone else for doing it though. i just don't like giving anything away. even if the date was great, i refrain from smoochin'. for me, chemistry is in the conversation. if you can't talk, then it won't work. i dunno, i'm just not quick to put my mouth on a stranger's mouth. you know, that's the dirtiest part of the human body.

Asia84 6 years

i don't kiss on the first date. i don't knock anyone else for doing it though.i just don't like giving anything away. even if the date was great, i refrain from smoochin'. for me, chemistry is in the conversation. if you can't talk, then it won't work.i dunno, i'm just not quick to put my mouth on a stranger's mouth. you know, that's the dirtiest part of the human body.

miss-britt 6 years

i agree Jude C. I just was discussing this with my friend and he said you shouldn't kiss until maybe the third date. I was like this isn't sex it's a kiss. I think kissing is so important to figure out if you really adore the person or not.

mandy_frost 6 years

said perfectly Jude C!

mandy_frost 6 years

said perfectly Jude C!

Greentea1203 6 years

I agree with erratic-assassin! Like, this guy at my work asked me out and we never ended up going out but hung out at my house forever listened to music, and we ended up making out until 3:30 am. I'm totally getting that feeling in my stomach every time I think about it now! :P

carak 6 years

my boyfriend and i didn't kiss until the third date! i could tell he liked me and he knew i liked him. i think he was just really nervous. depends on the situation i guess. sex on the first date is a major don't, though!

LittleLady12 6 years

If I had a great first date with a guy and he didn't try to kiss me, I'd feel so rejected! However, if I'm not into someone and I know there won't be a second date, no way am I kissing them. I think it's important to find out if a guy's a good kisser early on, and here's why: I had a great first date with this guy, and he kissed me at the end of the night (which I was hoping would happen!) and he was the WORST kisser of my entire life. His tongue was all down my throat and all over the place, and I just felt like he was choking me! He was worse than the "licker" in Sex and the City! He called me to ask me out again, and I completely ignored him. I would have gone out with him again if that kiss wasn't so bad, but I was SO TURNED OFF after that, I just couldn't put myself through that again! Bleh...I just threw up in my mouth a little bit because I'm reliving it!

LittleLady12 6 years

If I had a great first date with a guy and he didn't try to kiss me, I'd feel so rejected! However, if I'm not into someone and I know there won't be a second date, no way am I kissing them.I think it's important to find out if a guy's a good kisser early on, and here's why: I had a great first date with this guy, and he kissed me at the end of the night (which I was hoping would happen!) and he was the WORST kisser of my entire life. His tongue was all down my throat and all over the place, and I just felt like he was choking me! He was worse than the "licker" in Sex and the City! He called me to ask me out again, and I completely ignored him. I would have gone out with him again if that kiss wasn't so bad, but I was SO TURNED OFF after that, I just couldn't put myself through that again! Bleh...I just threw up in my mouth a little bit because I'm reliving it!

Merlin713 6 years

I've never kissed on a first date.. Let me tell you, I've been on a hell of a lot of dates in my time(my short time, I'm 21), and in all my experiences it's better(for me) to wait a little bit because it's just that much better.

Lizzard214 6 years

Sometimes it feels like rushing. Especially if your first date is also one of the first times you've hung out with the person alone. Generally, I've dated people I was friends with first so kissing wasn't a big deal on date one... But my current bf was a friend of a friend and we'd hung out only one time with her. Our first date was our first time alone. It was an amazing date, but neither of us was ready for a good night kiss. I don't even think we hugged!

LadyP 6 years

I say "Why not?" I do not agree, however, with sex on a first date.

shugahxnxspice 6 years

How about kissing BEFORE a first date? My boyfriend and I both admitted that there was a lot of chemistry before we even started dating, so when we had our first kiss, it was AMAZING and UNFORGETTABLE. Our first date wasn't even until a week or two later. Hehe. If the chemistry's there, rules shouldn't have to hold you back.

Jude-C 6 years

Is that really something people need to make rules about? If the chemistry's there and you want to kiss, then kiss!

katie_c 6 years

totally depends on the person and the vibe i'm getting. even if i'm having a great time i might hold back. it's just one of those decisions you can't truly decide 'til you're in the moment.

erratic-assassin 6 years

kiss shmiss! makeout! DO IT OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN mmmmm...kissing someone for the 1st time with the butterfly effect in your tummy and the tingle in your toes...aaaaghhH!! la-la-LOVE it!

erratic-assassin 6 years

kiss shmiss! makeout!DO IT OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAINmmmmm...kissing someone for the 1st time with the butterfly effect in your tummy and the tingle in your toes...aaaaghhH!! la-la-LOVE it!

Korsgal 6 years

A do, if you feel a great chemistry with the person, why not?

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