Dear Sugar,
I recently met this guy who seems too good to be true.
by DearSugar
Dear Sugar,
I recently met this guy who seems too good to be true. He's extremely attractive, exactly my type, intelligent, funny and single! We have been on a few dates but have only kissed. Everything seems to be going well, but one thing has been confusing/bothering me. Since one of our first dates, he has been making jokes and comments regarding having a small penis. I asked my friends about it and they figured he was just saying that because it is in fact big, and he wants to make me curious. He made another comment yesterday (probably his fifth) and I just couldn't take it anymore. I questioned him as to why he keeps talking about his small penis and asked if this was a normal joke topic among guys. He told me it wasn't a joke, it was in fact the truth. He said he'd rather I know now, before we have sex (which may happen in the near future) so I'm not surprised.
This attitude is confusing and totally unattractive. I don't know what to think — I've never dealt with a man with a small penis before and definitely not the insecurities that come along with it. I don't know how to react to his jokes, which continued immediately following our "talk." This is odd behavior to me and I'm wondering if this is a normal coping mechanism for guys lacking below the belt. What can I do to make him feel better about himself? — Perplexed Pam
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